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Kinship adoption, also known as relative adoption, is where members of a family adoption the child of another member. This could be a grandparent adopting a grandchild or an aunt adopting a niece.  If you are thinking about adopting a relative’s child, read below to find out the pros and cons to consider and expect.

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Pros

  1. Keeping a child within their biological family. Many people believe this is the strongest reason to consider kinship adoptions, also known as relative adoptions. It is important for many children of adoption to know that the family she was born into wanted her to stay a part of the family.
  2. Adoptive parents get to make final decisions about the child’s welfare. Adoption provides superior decision-making authority over guardianships or 3rd party custody situations because adoption is final.
  3. Family names. Name changes are often part of an adoption. Some adult adoptees believe this is can lead to a loss of culture and identity. In relative adoptions, sometimes the child’s last name stays the same.

Cons

  1. Visitation and contact is not guaranteed. Just because a child is raised by a relative, does not guarantee there will be any contact with the natural parents. Once the adoption is finalized, the decision on whether to allow visitation and contact is up to the adoptive parents. In many states, open adoptions are not legally enforceable.
  2.  Family roles change or become confusing. There are dual roles in relative adoptions. You could be a grandma and a mom. Although many people suspect this will be confusing for the child, it tends to be more difficult for the adults. Being honest and open to questions is the easiest way to keep problems at bay.
  3.  Amended birth certificate.  After an adoption the court issues an amended birth certificate naming the adoptive parents as the parents of the child and the original birth certificate is sealed. Although state laws are changing in this respect, many states will not allow the adoptee to obtain a copy of the original birth certificate.
 Read more about the Pros and Cons of Relative Adoption at noapologiesforbeingme.blogspot.com

International adoption is a lengthy, difficult process. Due to the Russian adoption ban, which went into effect more than a year ago, many prospective parents have been stuck in various stages of the adoption process. Some of these families have paid close to $50,000 and have already been to visit the child, prior to the ban going into effect. As you can imagine, once you have met the child and made the decision to adopt, it is difficult to give up. The ban as affected at least 1,000 families and Russian children. Some families are fighting back by petitioning drives, lobbying government officials, and filing protest complaints in the European Court of Human Rights. Other families have given up hope. To read more how the ban’s present implications in specific cases please visit: this article.

 

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An NPR interview with a white adoptive mother of black children has caused much backlash.  Most concerned comments came from transracial adoptees who felt their voice and perspective was missing from the discussion. A growing movement by adult adoptees, particularly of transracial adoptions, believe the system favors prospective parents, to the detriment of adoptees and birth mothers. In the interview, the Rachel Garlinghouse explains actions she has taken to teach her children about their race and heritage. And many comments claim that her attempts to hire black mentors for her children enhance, rather than reduce, racial differences. In addition, a good point was made that the person actually confronted with the racism directed towards transracial adoptive families and the person in the best position to address the racism would be the adoptee, not the adoptive parents.

As adult adoptee have become more active in discussions about adoption, the complexity of adoptions and particularly transracial adoptions is becoming evident. Do you have thoughts on how to best address this? If so, please comment below.

Normally when you hear about celebrities and adoptions it is in the tabloids. It usually involves someone like Madonna or Angelina Jolie adopting another child. The tabloids are eager to get the scoop and get photographs of the child. However, that is not all that celebrities do to bring attention to adoption as was highlighted in a recent feature in Town & Country magazine about the Australian actor Hugh Jackman. He is most famous for playing the role of Wolverine in movies based on comic books. However, he is also an adoptive father and an adoption advocate.

Jackman and his wife, Deborah-lee Furness started a National Adoption Awareness Week movement in Australia and they are now attempting to make it an international movement. They have the support of other celebrities, including Meg Ryan, Alfre Woodard and Marie Osmond. On its website the group offers resources for parents and teachers to help with the international adoption process. As Jackman says in the feature article, there are 153 million orphans around the world. His National Adoption Awareness Week movement seeks to highlight their plight and how international adoptions can help them to find safe and loving families to care for them.

It is wonderful that Jackman and his wife created this movement to bring positive attention to adoption. People do emulate celebrities and if Jackman’s National Adoption Awareness Week can convince some people to consider adoption, then he has done a great thing for orphans. It would be great if celebrities in the United States followed his lead and did the same type of thing here.Hugh Jackman