We all want to do what is best for our kids. The problem is knowing which approach is right. Adoption researchers and therapists have stated that adopted children adjust better when with open communication, honesty, and respect. Openness is not just about sending and receiving cards. It is also a responsibility that the adoptive parents have to talk to their kids about where they came from, to answer questions, and to engage in open discussions. Even if you cannot control the level of communication that is maintained between the birth parent and your adopted child, you can control how open you are in respecting your child’s history and being open to her questions. Unfortunately, adoptive parents are given any instruction manuals on how to approach these issues with your child. So, if you have questions or concerns about how your child is adjusting or how you have responded to questions in the past, do not hesitate to seek help from an experienced therapist.
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