Are you ready to adopt a child?

Consider these questions before moving forward with the adoption process. Depending on your answers, you might be ready to take the next step in an adoption.

Why do you want to adopt?

Keep a list of all your responses. This is your personal list, so treat it differently from a response you might share with other people or your adoption agent.  Underline your top 1-3 reasons and consider the strength of those reasons.

Are you ready to be a parent?

This should be one of the main reasons you listed for considering adoption. A child is a lifelong commitment and being ready to serve as a parent should be a primary reason for wanting to move forward in the adoption process. Without that desire to serve as a parent, adoption is not the best option for you.

Are you ready to handle the challenges of parenting a child who is not biologically my own?

There are unique challenges that come with raising an adopted child. Have you considered those challenges and your response to them? How much does it matter to you that your child will not share the same genetics as you? These are difficult questions that are important to consider. If you don’t know that you could handle living with and raising a child who is not biologically yours, adoption is not for you.

Are you financially ready for this challenge?

Adoption fees can be extremely expensive regardless of the route you decide to go. Adopting from foster care is at no cost, but any other adoption will generally have some fee associated with it. Take a careful review of your financial situation to ensure you are prepared to meet the fees and expenses of adoption and the lifelong commitment of raising a child.

Tana Benner
Tana Benner is an adoption attorney with Columbia Family Law Group. Her practice is focused in the area of family law and she has particular interests in adoption and helping children and victims of domestic violence.